This article is about how the The Next Step approach can instantly increase your attractiveness.
Ask Yourself: “Who do I have to become in order to attract the people and circumstances that I want in my life?”
If your answer to the above question is anything along the lines of being like another person who has what you would like to have, that would explain why you don’t have it.
Acting like your role model doesn’t make you desirable like that person. However, learning how that person does what he/she does in order to be desirable, and then applying the most relevant aspects of what you’ve learned to your natural self expression will make you more desirable in suitable contexts.
The entire field of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) has come into existence through the modelling of excellence. Had NLP modellers simply copied what others were excellent at, their results would not have been substantial, and the trail of NLP techniques that have had a profound influence in the leadership, coaching and therapy fields would have had little or no influence.
Those who study NLP learn how to elicit and assimilate the core competencies of those whom they wish to model. Then they integrate the beliefs, attitudes and behaviours of the person they’re modelling in a way that compliments their own values and personality as a whole.
Therefore, if you want to be more attractive to the people and circumstances that you want in your life, study the beliefs, attitudes and behaviours of those who have what you want. Then add that model of excellence to your unique way of being in the world, and you will attract desirable results.
If your answer to the above question (at the beginning of the article) is to be exactly who you are, then you are already completely desirable to the important people in your life. People desire to be around people who are being themselves – authentically. Inflated or deflated egos are not attractive. Those who have severed their relationship with limiting beliefs and who have come to know themselves as a perfect expression of life’s ongoing creation are amazing people to be around.
So The Next Step approach to instantly increase your desirability, is to express your authenticity. That’s it, just be who you (really) are. Having achieved this, you’ll have no need to model anyone else’s success, although it may sometimes be useful to know how to do so.
I leave you with this question: If you had no need for approval, how would you think, feel and behave? Your answer points in the direction of how you will experience your authentic self.
Imagine a world where everyone was authentically self empowered? It starts with you, right now…Take The Next Step!
Continue reading…The Next Step 5!
Written by Jevon Dangeli – NLP/Hypnotherapy Trainer & Coach
